Kultur 'Shock' in Deutschland
I was in Germany for 8 months last year and experienced first-hand the cultural differences between the Germans and the culture we have here in Singapore (some call it 'Asian', but I don't know if it is fair to paint all Asians with the same brush).
I had my first culture shock in only my first week there. I was staying in a youth hostel and one night, it was so cold that I had trouble falling asleep. Then, I noticed that the lady next to me had opened the window above her bed. It was well below zero outside and I felt that even if the person had wanted to keep the window open, it would be unfair to everyone else in the dorm. So without further hesitation, I closed the window and went back to sleep.
The next morning, the lady was clearly in a foul mood. She complained to me that someone had closed the window the previous night and she was having a splitting headache as a result. Maybe my expression gave me away, but she immediately figured out that I was the culprit. What followed was a the first tongue lashing that I had ever received from a stranger. I was utterly dumbfounded and could only mutter 'Tut mir Leid (sorry)' repeatedly.
After she left, I reflected on this incident and found myself feeling really sore about being scolded. But then I realised that being straightforward is probably something normal in their culture. In contrast, Singaporeans would at most complain privately and would certainly refrain from directly criticising a person.
Although I didn't directly discuss this issue with a German, I saw many more examples of Germans being upfront and straightforward. One instance was in a supermarket where I was queuing up at the cashier. There was only 1 cashier and the queue was getting quite long. Suddenly, I head a lady's voice behind me that boomed (in German), "Hey, open up another line!". Immediately, one of the employees came out mumbling "all right, all right" and started up a new cashier station. That really impressed me... Firstly, because in Singapore, no one would have dared shout like that. And secondly, even if someone did, it would really make the cashier very unhappy. Yet in Germany, it was just something natural and no one was the worse for wear.
I had my first culture shock in only my first week there. I was staying in a youth hostel and one night, it was so cold that I had trouble falling asleep. Then, I noticed that the lady next to me had opened the window above her bed. It was well below zero outside and I felt that even if the person had wanted to keep the window open, it would be unfair to everyone else in the dorm. So without further hesitation, I closed the window and went back to sleep.
The next morning, the lady was clearly in a foul mood. She complained to me that someone had closed the window the previous night and she was having a splitting headache as a result. Maybe my expression gave me away, but she immediately figured out that I was the culprit. What followed was a the first tongue lashing that I had ever received from a stranger. I was utterly dumbfounded and could only mutter 'Tut mir Leid (sorry)' repeatedly.
After she left, I reflected on this incident and found myself feeling really sore about being scolded. But then I realised that being straightforward is probably something normal in their culture. In contrast, Singaporeans would at most complain privately and would certainly refrain from directly criticising a person.
Although I didn't directly discuss this issue with a German, I saw many more examples of Germans being upfront and straightforward. One instance was in a supermarket where I was queuing up at the cashier. There was only 1 cashier and the queue was getting quite long. Suddenly, I head a lady's voice behind me that boomed (in German), "Hey, open up another line!". Immediately, one of the employees came out mumbling "all right, all right" and started up a new cashier station. That really impressed me... Firstly, because in Singapore, no one would have dared shout like that. And secondly, even if someone did, it would really make the cashier very unhappy. Yet in Germany, it was just something natural and no one was the worse for wear.